A Bit About Me

Long time single, married, divorced, and dating in my late forties, I’ve learned a few things about life, relationships, and love.  After being married to a woman with undiagnosed borderline personality disorder, I’ve become sort of an amateur psychologist, which has been both a blessing and sometimes, a curse.  I’ve been blogging elsewhere, mostly for myself, but more than one person has encouraged me to write publicly.  Apparently, some people find me humorous and insightful, but what do they know…

I lived in Richmond, VA, but have reluctantly relocated to KC.  There's obviously more to me than being able to understand human behavior and being single.  I’m a successful marketing executive with a rewarding career.  I’m passionate about cooking, working with homeless dogs, and German sports cars.  All of these facets will work their way into my forthcoming posts in one way or another.  There will also be a few dirty stories, recounting a few of my most memorable encounters. (although, I'm doing less of this, because a few women I've had my most memorable encounters with read my blog)  Sometimes, my entries are just thoughts that need an outlet.  However, most of my entries will be frank examinations of issues surrounding relationships, dating, and mental health.  I've been told my writing manages to illuminate emotions that some had struggled to understand or even realize existed.  I do my best to keep my 'kimono open', sharing my own emotional challenges, when appropriate.  

All opinions and ideas expressed herein are my own.  In other words, when I consider writing about a topic, I don't read the work of others first so that I 'know what to think'.  Outside source material is only utilized in two instances.  I often incorporate material, to provide facts / statistics to topics where relevant.  Also, if there's a bit of information related to the topic of a post, but the addition of the information risks a side journey, I may link to an article on it.  For complete transparency, all outside source information will be cited and/or hotlinked, unless I'm referring to a self-evident trend validated by a dozen studies.

Fair warning to those expecting warm and fuzzy, politically correct viewpoints; you won’t find them here.  I’m blunt and share what’s on my mind, sometimes to my detriment.  I pride myself on being relevant, because I only write about topics I’m either intimately familiar with or have researched thoroughly.   Unlike some bloggers I've encountered, I do my level best to avoid self-indulgent drivel and whining, although there may be a few occasions where I do so.  But those will all be prefaced with a warning of self-indulgent content; besides, it's my blog.  Speaking of prefaces, I seem to have an affinity, so you'll see many of them.

My goal is for my readers to consider the time taken out of their day reading my blog to be well spent, or at the very least, not wasted.  In support of this goal, while writing an entry, I repeatedly I ask myself whether I'd read it, were it written by someone else.  If the answer's not a yes, the entry is either reworked or trashed.  And if I get bored writing on a topic, to the bin it goes.  If writing something bores me, how can I expect those who read it to feel otherwise.  Is there still bias in this method?  Sure, but I don't have the resources to hire focus groups, so it'll have to do.  

Some of my posts have been migrated from another venue in which I blogged.  So, I’ll apologize now if a few feel out of order in the grand scheme of things.  

In any case, I invite your comments, positive or otherwise, in the comments section or at theinsightfulbachelor@gmail.com