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I spent most of my 20s traveling to Antarctica researching polar plankton. Now, I enjoy documentaries (the more depressing the better!),...
Sunday, March 25, 2018
Religion and Dating in Kansas
Having been here for seven months (holy fucking shit, that realization just made me a bit nauseous!), I should have already encountered someone I wanted to date more than a few times, or at least developed one or two 'special friends', with whom I could spend quality time. However, I've only gone on multiple dates with one person. It goes without saying that dating sucks, but seriously, this has been an incredible dry spell. This lack of companionship can essentially be attributed to one factor, religion.
I've already shared my views on religion and faith here. With the exception I noted in that entry, I'd previously not encountered much friction on the topic of religion in the context of dating. That is until I moved here...to the Bible Belt. You see, the majority of people I've come across here are practicing Christians and most women want the same quality in their partner. Beyond it narrowing the dating pool quite a bit, no foul, right? Wrong.
You see, many of these so called devout Christians take quite a bit of license with the 'no sex before marriage' rule. That's the one good thing about OKCupid; it's easy to see by how a woman answers the sex questions what's important to her. It's fairly common to find a woman who responds she'll sleep with a guy on their first date, but God is very important to her.
My position is if you're going to be a Christian, be a Christian. If you consider the Bible to be the word of God, follow it. You're either in or you're out. 'I like these rules, but not those, so I'll ignore them' serves only to highlight your hypocrisy. His word is either sacrosanct or it's not, and if it's not, then stop calling yourself a person of faith.
To those I've questioned on the topic, the typical response has been 'I have a special relationship with God'. So, you and your sky daddy sat down and he said 'fuck all the guys you want, I got your back'? You'll forgive me if I'm a bit skeptical about that one.
It all boils down to this: This is your god, the one you worship, and profess to follow. If you can't be faithful to Him, then how can I expect you will be to some schmuck you're dating?
The cherry on the top is these women (and I'm sure men, but I don't date them), will be the first to judge you for not being a Christian. They look down their noses at you as though you're some sort of ignorant, evil creature. Hypocrisy elevated to a very high standard.
And this has nothing to do with slut shaming. Those who read my blog know I wholeheartedly celebrate sluts. A woman can fuck her way through the NFC east, for all I care, and I'd have not one unkind word to say about her. However, if she's espousing to worship her sky daddy while doing it, she's a waste of oxygen.
For example, the girl who owned nothing would scream with delight as I pounded her ass, and called her a whore, but still gave me shit for not believing in God.
In another case, I'd been chatting with a woman (here in the Flat Lands) who seemed to be a good fit; smart, funny, cute, blah, blah. We'd discussed sex and she became rather excited about becoming my dirty girl, even being owned by me. We planned to meet for dinner, then she would come to my house, the next night, to get laid, no pretense of anything else. Fast forward to dinner and the food arrives. Before she tears into her steak, she bows her head. Holy shit, this chick is saying grace! The chick I had just met, who wanted me to fuck her like a slut the following night, was saying grace!
My rant toward these people: You fuckers are the worst kind of hypocrites and numb skulls. You make the rest of us suffer through you wearing your supposed faith on your sleeve, looking down your nose at those who don't share your beliefs, yet you don't live it yourself. Exactly what do you plan to say to St. Peter at the pearly gates, when he points out more men had gone down on you than on the Titanic?
No one should be shocked that I absolutely won't date a Christian. If she truly believes, I'm not waiting until marriage or a 'serious' relationship before we get naughty (and potentially discover she's horrible in the sack). If she does fuck, she's a hypocrite.
And that's life in Kansas...how's your love life?
I've already shared my views on religion and faith here. With the exception I noted in that entry, I'd previously not encountered much friction on the topic of religion in the context of dating. That is until I moved here...to the Bible Belt. You see, the majority of people I've come across here are practicing Christians and most women want the same quality in their partner. Beyond it narrowing the dating pool quite a bit, no foul, right? Wrong.
You see, many of these so called devout Christians take quite a bit of license with the 'no sex before marriage' rule. That's the one good thing about OKCupid; it's easy to see by how a woman answers the sex questions what's important to her. It's fairly common to find a woman who responds she'll sleep with a guy on their first date, but God is very important to her.
My position is if you're going to be a Christian, be a Christian. If you consider the Bible to be the word of God, follow it. You're either in or you're out. 'I like these rules, but not those, so I'll ignore them' serves only to highlight your hypocrisy. His word is either sacrosanct or it's not, and if it's not, then stop calling yourself a person of faith.
To those I've questioned on the topic, the typical response has been 'I have a special relationship with God'. So, you and your sky daddy sat down and he said 'fuck all the guys you want, I got your back'? You'll forgive me if I'm a bit skeptical about that one.
It all boils down to this: This is your god, the one you worship, and profess to follow. If you can't be faithful to Him, then how can I expect you will be to some schmuck you're dating?
The cherry on the top is these women (and I'm sure men, but I don't date them), will be the first to judge you for not being a Christian. They look down their noses at you as though you're some sort of ignorant, evil creature. Hypocrisy elevated to a very high standard.
And this has nothing to do with slut shaming. Those who read my blog know I wholeheartedly celebrate sluts. A woman can fuck her way through the NFC east, for all I care, and I'd have not one unkind word to say about her. However, if she's espousing to worship her sky daddy while doing it, she's a waste of oxygen.
For example, the girl who owned nothing would scream with delight as I pounded her ass, and called her a whore, but still gave me shit for not believing in God.
In another case, I'd been chatting with a woman (here in the Flat Lands) who seemed to be a good fit; smart, funny, cute, blah, blah. We'd discussed sex and she became rather excited about becoming my dirty girl, even being owned by me. We planned to meet for dinner, then she would come to my house, the next night, to get laid, no pretense of anything else. Fast forward to dinner and the food arrives. Before she tears into her steak, she bows her head. Holy shit, this chick is saying grace! The chick I had just met, who wanted me to fuck her like a slut the following night, was saying grace!
My rant toward these people: You fuckers are the worst kind of hypocrites and numb skulls. You make the rest of us suffer through you wearing your supposed faith on your sleeve, looking down your nose at those who don't share your beliefs, yet you don't live it yourself. Exactly what do you plan to say to St. Peter at the pearly gates, when he points out more men had gone down on you than on the Titanic?
No one should be shocked that I absolutely won't date a Christian. If she truly believes, I'm not waiting until marriage or a 'serious' relationship before we get naughty (and potentially discover she's horrible in the sack). If she does fuck, she's a hypocrite.
And that's life in Kansas...how's your love life?
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